Living In Grace

Because ...

This Christmas season, I am so wrapped up in the "make it the best, it could your last" that I have completely gotten away from this:

 

The whole reason we should be celebrating.

I need to slow down, take a breath and remember that- if this is my last, then it has been written in ages since before time, and I cannot do anything about it.

So, how can I make this the best Chrsitmas for my kids this year? By helping them remember the Why. The Who.

But first, I must remember it myself.

A baby changes everything. Hallelujah.

 

Merry Christmas to you. And I hope to be abit moe regulr in my postings after the New Year. I miss y'all.

 

Ecuador, Here They Come!

 

Please, dear friends, be praying for the group of bloggers winging their way to Ecuador even as e speak.

They will be traveling to various Compassion projects this upcoming week, sharing God's love and getting out the word that that Compassion does a great work worldwide bringing schooling, medicine, family support and God's Word and love.

And, while you are here, would you consider a gift of just $30-and-some-odd dollars a month to sponsor a child who desperately needs some additional love and support?

While you are there please consider those with a big, red heart next to there picture. That means that child has been waiting over 6 months for a sponsor. Could you be the one they are waiting for?

Lastly, I want to welcome Carlos Francisco to our family. He is a beautiful 5 year old boy who has patiently waited for us to be his family. Welcome, Carlos! We are so glad you and your family are now our extended Ecuadorian family! I cannot wait to get to know you.

 

 

An Update on My Life, My Kidney Transplant, Dialyis and More. Seriosly. I know. I stink at this.

 Hello, 2 people who still come here. My bad. All me :(

Thinking, composing, committing is just getting to be a struggle. Whine, whine, whine. Sorry... Depression is, as well. But, I am trying.

We have some options here at the house that may help relieve some tension, stress, burdens, etc, so as we know- I will promise now to do my best to let you know.

The fam:

Kati decided to be a "Super Senior", taking an extra year to graduate and get in some extra work on her GPA in case college is a next step. Her prime focus is on being a dance instructor, Ballroom is her passion, so college may not be the best option in her long-term plan. And I have actually come to be the cheerleader for that option- the No-College one. Me. I never, ever thought those words would come out of my mouth. So. She home schools 2 days a week, works 6-7 days at one FT, one PT job to pay for all. those. dance. classes. I am proud of her, though rarely see her. Tonight she flopped on the floor while John was picking Jonathan is up Jazz Band practice, and we watched the opening episode of Charlie's Angels on DVR. Cheesy as it was then, and I am proud to say I was glued to the screen every time it was on as a child. The new one? The jury is out.

Jonathan: Is passionate beyond words about his music. He is in, ahem- IB Musc, sings in the HS Chorale, plays piano for The Dynamics (the HS Jazz Ensemble), plays piano for the HS Jazz Band (pretty good group I must say), plays piano for some paying gigs in town (Coffee shops, Bookstores kindof thing, a Festival now and again) with his Jazz Quartet "The New Side", and plays piano in the Jazz Band at t he Cascade School of Music. And practices 2-3 hours a night when he get home. Every night.

Yeah- we are currently talking about pacing and burnout.

Otherwise he, too, is a Senior though opting for the Super Senior program and will take 2 classes at the HS next year, and the rest at the community college. He wants to get his General Ed out of the way there since it is all free him being a Senior still and all. Thank you, Lord.

And we rarely see him either. Except at the piano when he get home at 10 or so. Oh- he ballroom dances with his sister as well....

John and I get through each day.That is all ...

Oh yeah-

We are training next week for 4 weeks to do hemodialysis in home starting November 1. I do not have to go to the center three times a week. Thank goodness. But, it will be alot more on John as he has to be here the whole time I am dialyzing, which will be a total of about 36 hrs/wk over 5 days  roughly. Not sitting with me, but within calling in case of emergencies, which do happen but rarely.

And now? The update on transplant.

I talked to my coordinator at Cedar Sinai. Seems that since 2009, when 2600 fewer kidney transplants nationwide were done, there has been a continuing decrease in the number of cadaver kidney-provided transplant done in the US. In the last 4 months, the decrease has escalated.

This proves even more the need for Living Donor kidney provided transplant donors. A person can live a long, full life with... just one kidney.

A person in kidney failure cannot live life without the miracle of a transplant. Statistically, the longer you are on dialysis, the *less* your chance of survival is. The avg. decline in life-span is -25% per year That means in 4 years you are living on more than borrowed time. You need that transplant.

I beg you to consider being that miracle. Consider being a kidney donor while you are here to greet the person whose life you saved when they wake up. Celebrate those anniversaries with them. 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, 5 years.

Let their family shake your hug, hug you, tell you what you have done for their family unit. They need every single. person.

If not, consider being an organ donor when you are gone. Give the gift of life. In a day and age where less and less people are willing to do so, for whatever reason, be that one person that does want to make a difference.

Please, I am begging you. Because I pray you are never on the other side of the equation, waiting for the phone to ring. Wondering of you will see that next birthday, Christmas, Thanksgiving, anniversary, graduation, wedding, grandchild.

(feel free to share, re-post, talk about as you wish)

Thanks. Thanks so much.

So. I know I say I will try to write more, but I do mean it. And I will.

Thank you for your ongoing encouragement.

 

Hugs,

Kelli

Hello Out There, World. Remember Me?

Hey everyone. How are my peeps?

Frankly, I am not sure if I still have any peeps out there. I have been horrid since last July about posting, and I truly apologize.

I am finding that, as time goes by and I live in this world called Kidney Failure, that it is not just my physical body breaking down around me. Yes, I am still in a wheelchair, no walking does not seems any closer.

But, I am starting to find my brain is breaking down around me, as well. It is apparent that it is harder and harder to put thoughts not only together in a conversation, but on paper. I cannot tell you how many times I have opened Typepad to write all about the things happening here, but health-related or not, only to sit  and look at this blank screen in front of me.

To be honest, it seems a two-fold issue. Around here, I find I cannot have more than one thing going on noise-wise and still be able to concentrate enough to carry on any type of conversation. But, I also, at time, feel I've nothing left to say.

Nothing that has not been said again and again ad naseum in the last 5 years. It is almost that it is not just becoming too much to be living in the moment and seeing it happen, but to document it? I believe that is part of my struggle.

I wonder more and more if I will have that moment where I can look back and laugh at all this someday, as they say.

Cedars is the best hospital around. They are the hospital to heal me, I truly believe. But we are once again in the cycle of each new Living Kidney Donor candidate, which to be honest are becoming harder and harder to find, being turned down. I thought when we signed up with them that this was it. The miracle we were hoping for.

Miracle, stage left.

Elvis has left the building.

So, I am sorry for not being more vigilant about posting. There truly are wonderful moments in this house. I have a beautiful husband who takes amazing care of me and two of the most wonderful kids who are becoming more and more stitched to my soul every day.

Jonathan is thinking of spending part of his Gap Year in Africa- either on a reserve as a volunteer, or building on an orphanage compound.

Kati is killing herself this summer working 7 days a week at two jobs (1 FT, 1 PT) and taking dance lessons and going to Social Dances to hone her craft- all in preparation for her upcoming Dance Scholarship audition in January at UVU.

Following their dreams.

In about 14 months this house will become very quiet and very still. Hmmm.

Otherwise, in other news, Cedars has made mention that they received a couple of phone calls in the last 3 months or so from UNOS offering me second or third place for a deceased donor kidney they had determined me to be a potential match. Basically, if the first person they offered it to failed the cross match (blood test to determine compatibility), then they go down the list until someone works, if at all.

So, rather than wait for the optimal Living Kidney Donor (optimal as a living kidney statistically lasts at least twice as long), they are willing to begin the 5 week protocol to prep me for being ready for accepting a deceased kidney now. It is all just a matter now of waiting for the insurance to approve the protocol being given here, rather than in LA. This is the difference of me not having to drive 5 days RT to LA for a 4 hour dialysis treatment on a special machine. We have that machine here in Bend, OR- praise God.

So far, the insurance has had our request for two weeks.

Yawn.

Somehow they forgot they gave us pre-approval in January before Sarah went for her clinical evaluation in February.

They have evidently started the whole process over. Slowly.

Well. Not bad, if I do say so. A post that would have taken me about 30 minutes to write a year ago? 2 hours and counting.

But, I wrote it.

I promise to try harder. I owe all of you that. You have been so supportive of us throughout these last 5 years.

It may not be much, but it will be something.

I love you all.

Know that, if nothing else.

An update. Not the one we wanted, but an update.

Sarah went to Cedars this past Friday-Monday for her clinical evaluation. This is the next "final" step in her process to surgery. First, they approve her as a donor. Then, she does her clinical where they test her mentally, physically and financially then give a Go, No Go. We begin treatment on me (the series of three treatments to lower my rejection rate) and then one final cross match blood test a week before surgery for the final Go, No Go.

So, Sarah went for her clinical eval this past week and the results went to committee on Thursday the 24th. The committee consists of all the team members from both the donor side and the recipient side. Everyone discusses the results thus far, and if anyone has a reservation and says  "No", then it is over. No, appeal, no nothing.

We got the No.

The reason was given to Sarah, who told me, but as a family we are not wanting to share it. It has no bearing on Sarah at all. She has been the best through all of this and has become a permanent part of this family. We will love her forever, but it is evidently not meant to be.

So, again, we have to put out the call for new donors to be tested as a living donor.

If you have either an "O" or "A" blood type, in general good health (no history of cancer, kidney disease, high blood pressure) then you can contact us at jkbach@comcast.net and I can forward you more information about the Cedars program. It is located in Los Angeles, but we would pay any of your expenses if you are out of the area. (And those if you are are in the area, as well).

I am still wrapping my head around things. In the last 3 days, I have been through so many emotions and have yet to settle on my final reaction.

At this point, I would just have to ask that you be praying for Sarah. She is devastated about this whole outcome. If you could be praying for her, I would be indebted to you guys. Thank you, so so much!

Love you, Kelli

We have AMAZING News. Finally.

We spoke to Cedars today and they have approved a Living Kidney Donor.

there will be a need for her to travel to LA in a couple weeks for some testing, then I start going back and forth for three weeks from OR to Los Angeles for treatments to get get me ready for surgery that is tentatively the end of March- exactly 5 years from the time I was first listed.

The mood in the house is one of possible hope, but none of us is ready and willing to commit to this too emotionlly due to the road we have travelled the last 5 years.

So, cautious optimism is the word of the day. But thankful for Sarah and her willingness to come forward and offer to help a total stranger and give a kidney.

THANK YOU SARAH FROM THE BTOTTOM OF OUR HEARTS!

Now for the hard part, you will notice a bottom over there >>> that takes you to a link for our fund raising effort, We have to cover all the expenses the insurance won't, so would you consider praying about the possibility of giving a little to help us out with those expenses?

Some of the include:

- Sarah's travel to and from LA for her testing (airfare, lodging, food, cars, etc)

- Sarah travel and stay in LA for surgery

- Our travel (at least 4 trips) over three weeks prior to surgery for treatment required pre-surgery

- my one month minimum stay in LA after surgery

- family's travel to/from LA to visit post-surgery

Thank you all for your continued prayerful support of our family. I know it has been a loooooong five years.

Now- onward and upward :)

 

 

 

 

 

To be or not to be? Rheumatoid Anthing is no longer the question.

Short and sweet, because if I type out how I really feel about all this, y'all will see my ugly come out and I just cannot do that to all of you.

So.

The new Rheumatologist's nurse called tonight to tell me that all of the rheumatoid-based testes he ran are perfectly normal. Which means, drumroll, I do not have anything rheumatoid based- like rheumatoid arthritis.

Which is what the last guy said I had, hands down, and has been treating me for. Which no results. At all.

For 15 months.

Which is why John and I sought out this new guy and waited 3 months for an appt and another for the results of these tests.

So, I have been in this wheelchair being treated incorrectly to no avail for a year and half basically which who knows what damage being done to my muscles, affecting my ability to get up and walk again in who knows what ways.

I see him again next Friday to find out where we go from here- all we know is that my SED rate is high meaning there is inflammation.

Why? Who knows.

That is all we know for now.

On the transplant front, we just found out that the blood we re-drew a Thursday before New Years just got to Cedars yesterday too old to work with (Odd thing is we overnighted it- thank you USPS). So, we have to draw again on Tuesday am, get it to the Post Office by 2pm to ensure next day am delivery so it is usable.

So, we are still not even in the process of knowing if Sarah is a viable living kidney donor match.

I think y'all can understand the levels of frustration around here at the moment.

So rather than go on, I will just say Adios, Vaya Con Dios.

 

 

 

 

 

 

An update in the New Year

The only new thing to report is that Cedars never rec'd the blood I sent in Nov to be cross matched against the only possible living donor I have (Sarah), so I had to send them more last week. We are in a 4 week waiting period now while they do all the tests they need to, see if she is good to go and if not, if they have a protocol to resolve any issues there are between the two of us.

If not, then we must wait and pray like crazy for someone else to come forward to be tested as a living kidney donor, as she is the last one.

I do hope that all of you had an amazing Christmas and New Year's, and that y'all are brought all God's blessings in this coming year.

We are officially in Year 5 of this adventure called Renal Failure and wonder when we will move to the next phase called Renal Transplant Success and Healing.


Our family stands firm that God is in control, though we obviously question the "whys" and "whens" of His timing here and there.

But, in the end, we know there is a plan. And that is enough for us, regardless of our human failing to question and wonder.

We love you all and continue to be thankful for the support you have given us throughout this time.

Thank you, thank you and thank you again :)

Love,
Kelli

Huge Update Type News

HUGE NEWS

My one & only potential living kidney donor had to send in a heck of a lot of lab work this week to Cedars....

Blood (10 vials)
...
24 hour creatinine clearance (to see what her kidney function levels are)

Pregnancy glucose test (though not pregnant, looking for diabetes) (**Edited from now pregnant, sorry Sarah, to scare you like that!)

And now?

We wait.

We know within 14 - 21 days if we have a go / no go for transplant.

If a go?

Surgery is in 2-4 mo's- after I fly her AK to CA 2x for testing, then we prep surgery by me going OR to LA for a week, then back again for a day 2 weeks later, then back a week later for surgery.

If we get a Yes, she can still fall out / back out at any time, but we pray and move forward.
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And raise about $15K to cover non-covered expenses.

But, for now.

We. wait.

And pray.

Care to join us?

(If you would like to share the widget over there on the right hand side to help spread the word a out our fundraising efforts, just click here and click on "Grab this fundraiser's widget" in the left hand column for the code. I am simply too inane to insert the code here without the widget showing... ugh

My name is Kelli.

I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend.

I live with one life-threatening illness and another that is life-devastating.

I must live each day trying to remember these words, or I have no hope.

God is bigger than the boogie man.
And He will take care of me.

Isn't that what we teach our children?

I must have faith or all is lost.
I must believe or hope is gone.
I must persevere or my children have no mother.
I must fight back or my husband has no wife.

Life in this fishbowl in not easy, nor fun.

But it is my life, and I must choose how I am going to live it.

These are the decisions I am grappling with.

Please pray for us as a whole, and think of those around you living in similar, but different fishbowls and pray for them as well. Do not let them become the silent minority, the unforgotten.

Let's make a conscience choice to stand together against what attacks those amongst us and fight back through prayer and support.

Please.